We’ve all heard of the stereotype that women don’t really mean what they say. Most of the time, this is just a bunch of nonsense; women are just as capable of being straightforward and direct, just as men can be vague and beat around the bush.
However, no matter how we want to think otherwise, there’s some truth in how women will oftentimes communicate less directly. This is not because they want to be difficult or stir up trouble, but rather women tend to treat communication somewhat more delicately. Here are some common things women say and what they’re more likely to mean.
1. “I have a boyfriend.”
What she really means: Either “I actually have a boyfriend. Back off!” or “Stop trying to hit on me. It’s not working.”
When was the last time you took rejection in stride? Probably never, right? It hurts the first time and it sure as hurts the hundredth time. Women understand this and really don’t want to say things like, “I’m not interested,” or, “I’m looking for someone… Just not you.”
Whatever the case, the proper response would not be to continue harassing her or to say something stupid like, “FINE! YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU’RE MISSING!”
2. “Here’s my number. It’s 555-5555.”
What she really means: “I feel like I can’t be open with you, so I’m going to give you a stranger’s number to call in place of me outright rejecting you.”
Ah… The fake number. Every man who’s ever struck out has received a fake number at least once in his lifetime. It’s much worse when you think you’re hitting it off only to be told by some mustached man named Todd that you got the wrong number. There’s really nothing you can do here than shrug it off and look for someone else.
3. “You’re such a nice guy!”
What she really means: “Just so we’re clear. We’re not going to date.”
More often than not, men might begin to feel attracted to a female companion of theirs. This attraction might change the dynamics of their relationship ever-so-slightly, but a woman may pick up on this. If she says anything along the lines of “stop trying to leave the friendzone,” she doesn’t see you as boyfriend material. She also doesn’t want you to try to express your interest in her in order to avoid an awkward conversation.
4. “I’ll be busy the entire week so I’ll let you know.”
What she really means: “I don’t want to see you again.”
Assuming you got her real phone number and asked her out via text/phone call, if she gives you a curt “I’ll be busy” line and offers no time frame when she’ll be free, she’s letting you down softly. She doesn’t see you that way, but she also doesn’t want to be outright and let you down. Saying she’s busy is her way of softening the blow.
5. “Yes. I’m fine. Don’t worry about it.”
What she really means: “No. I’m not fine. No, I won’t tell you why. Figure it out for yourself.”
If her tone doesn’t match the theme of her words, you definitely messed up. It’s hard to detect when you’ve done something wrong when she isn’t open with you about it. Unfortunately, you’re on your own here, bro. You need to find out what you did and make it right. Chocolates and flowers only work if you know what you’re apologizing for.
6. “Maybe we need to take a break.”
What she really means: “I’m having doubts about the future of our relationship.”
Breaking up can be hard, both for the breaker-upper and the broken-uppee. In fact, odds are that even if she’s thinking of calling it quits, she might not actually want to do it. If she’s telling you that you guys “need a break,” this could mean that she wants to talk about your relationship. This is an opportunity for you to gauge what she’s feeling and ask her what’s really on her mind. If you do end up parting ways, hey, there are plenty of fish in the sea.